Fun - Part Wun

What is fun exactly?

Finding Us New?

Flipping Until Numb?

Friends Until Never?

Feet Under Naval?

Falling Up Now?

Feeling Unearthly Nothing?

Or perhaps we should go with a fresher, hipper version: PHUN

People Hugging Under Night-sky

So I’m stretching it a bit perhaps? Phine.

Let’s look at fun. Often times we think of “fun” as something decadent, naughty, or bad for us. Like drugs, cake, random sex, shoplifting, etc… and truth be told, it probably was fun. The first time. But what about the second time? Or the third? We kept repeating what we remember was fun, and then we would reach for it in order to re-create the feeling we had the first time. The thrill. The excitement. The release. At some point, maybe it stopped being fun. Telltale signs: hangovers, guilt, going to jail. Yeah, most of us think those aren’t fun. So we chose fun based on a past experience. Is it because we are out of ideas? Too distracted or even lazy to figure out what our next “fun” thing to do will be? As kids, we were always on to the next thing. It was easier then, because we didn’t have as much repetition on the old fun things.

Do we even know what fun is for us now, in this moment?

In order to have awesome, present moment fun, we need to let ourselves grow up. Literally. Grow up and out of our old ideas of fun and see who we are right here right now. For example, I used to think playing with Barbie dolls was fun. Not so much now. I used to think that playing house was fun. Now I have a house. Do I play house? Is it still fun?

So I let go of my stuffed animals and my Barbie dolls, and my bottle collection, and playing Chutes and Ladders. I moved on to other “fun” things. Bottom line, we have to let go of who we were, and that includes letting go of what that person we used to be thought was fun.

Fun – how do we know we are having it? Because there is a feeling. A feeling that feels so good you never want it to stop. Some call it bliss. Some call it joy. Some call it your soul. Call it what you like, but that feeling is fun. It’s not the act of what we are doing, but the feeling we are getting from doing it.

Tomorrow we’ll look at some fun things to do or not do.