Commandment #3: Truth is not a weapon

In the workshop "heart, hips, and relationships" I lay out the 10 Commandments of relationship according to me. And this year, I added the 11th commandment. 

#3 - Truth is not a weapon. 

Am I telling the truth because I feel hurt  less than in some way? Am I using this idea of telling the truth in order to hurt back and give myself a boost? Am I telling the truth because I feel lost and lonely and invisible and i need someone to acknowledge me to affirm that I exist? 

There are times in relationship where we need to tell our truth to a loved one (or other lucky devil), when in fact, we really just want to knock them down a few pegs. Lucky them. So before casting these pearls of wisdom, consider these points:

#1. Tell yourself the truth first- what do I really want to get out of this interchange? If you can be brutally honest with yourself, then you can be brutally honest with another.

Then remember the following:

1. You exist

2. You are equal to, no matter what perception you have chosen to give your truth to

3. You are worthy.

4. Tell yourself the truth first. 

Do you what need to do in the moment, and see if telling the truth was the cause that created your desired effect (karma). And feel deep in your heart. If you plan on using truth as a weapon, be very clear on what dragon you want to slay. For Truth is not a weapon, but that which shines a light and helps us grow. (Think fertilizer vs Round up)